Why Are We Going So Slow?

Mist Traffic JamOn the way to school this morning we were stuck in terrible traffic, brake lights for miles. My daughter asked, “Why are we going so slow?” And as per usual that simple question hit me right between the eyes. A simple question can shift everything if we allow ourselves the time to get quiet and answer.  I replied, “I don’t know” and continued to inch my way along in the lovely rain filled traffic. She went on to banter with her sister but as the rhythm of the windshield wipers went on I began to turn her question over in my mind.

This two second interaction sparked a replay of questions I often have about a variety of ‘challenges’ facing my life. I ask the question loud and often, ‘God, why are things moving sooooooooooooooooooooo slow.’ And often times the answer is a simple and clear, because you, my dear, need to slow down.’ Instead of being mad about being stuck in traffic or moving slowly through your journey why not take the opportunity to shift your thinking. Pause in the midst of the slowdown, look around and ask, what is the lesson here? For me today the lesson was simple just because you’re a moving slowly towards your destination doesn’t mean you aren’t moving. Slow and steady wins the race.

I’m thankful for questions from my little people. Listen out for questions today be open to the answers found in your daily activities. Don’t be surprised if your eyes are opened to the slow and steady progress you are making. Today is a new day filled with possibility don’t let miles of brake lights discourage you.

Are you inching your way through a slow down today? What is something you can do to keep a positive attitude when you appear to be at a standstill?

Please let me know what you think in the comments.

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Be Less Afraid: 7 Quotes to Help You Embrace Change

“Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.”–Maya Angelou

If you are not careful fear will rent space in your mind and keep you stuck with the ‘devil you know’. Any hope of being kinder, generous, fun loving—insert your own virtue here—will never materialize without courage. You can demonstrate courage today by first being honest with yourself, you are afraid and that’s ok. Today is a new day and you can chose, today, to be courageous!

“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.”–Maya Angelou

Sometimes I play this vicious game with myself, ‘man if I knew then what I now I would’ve done this or that differently.’ But the truth is even if I had all the information in the world I still may have made some of the same choices. Today I find comfort in knowing that I did the best I could with what I knew at the time. With each day I have an opportunity to learn and do better. God has given me a life filled with opportunity. I have an abundance of gifts and talents. Each new day is filled with chances to make different and better choices

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”– Leo Tolstoy

We often sit around and discuss how much better the world would be if only people would be more considerate, helpful, honest etc. There is room for you to make the world a better place. There are things within YOU that the world needs to know, feel, and understand, but you will have to decide to make some moves.

Will you join me in deciding to grip change, rock the boat, tip the apple cart, and break the mold? Invest the time today to pick up that book, research that idea, put pen to paper, start your business,  your dream matters. The time is now let’s get to work!

‎”In every crisis there is a message. Crises are nature’s way of forcing change — breaking down old structures, shaking loose negative habits so that something new and better can take their place.” — Susan L. Taylor

This quote reminds me of a  running joke that I toss around with my friends whenever crisis hits. I ask the question aloud “Who’s Jonah me or you?” I’m alluding to the story in the bible about Jonah running from God’s direction and instruction. His avoidance resulted in drama for himself and people around him.  Crisis doesn’t mean you have to fall apart, but rather it is a chance to let go of what is not working and begin moving toward something better. Are you in the midst of a shaking? What are some of the old habits being rattled? How about those ideas about yourself and what you are capable of accomplishing?

“We will be ourselves and free, or die in the attempt. Harriet Tubman was not our great-grandmother for nothing.” – Alice Walker

I am one of those people who looks to the past to gain strength and inspiration. I love slave narratives and historical fiction because I’m able to see the power and strength in all my ancestors endured. I’m inspired by their ability to find hope in the midst of adversity. Their commitment to pursuing freedom is more than inspiring it is empowering! Armed with this knowledge, how dare I think for one moment to play it safe or to live small?

Are you playing it safe? I’m sure if you look within your family’s history you too will be amazed to know that you are alive and well. So why not make the most of the life you have today. What is one thing you can do today to tap into the sheer determination and grit within you?

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”–Alice Walker

You have more power than you know it is your life and you get to make choices. What are you choosing to do or accept today?

Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”–Mother Teresa

There is no use in crying over spilled milk and the sooner we realize that we cannot undo the past the better off we will be. We can plan for the future and that is a wise and noble action.  The riskier thing would be to take action today to move towards change and no longer allow fear to drive us.

We all have things churning with in us things we need to get done. People we need to reconcile with, folks we need to let go, classes we need to take, budgets we need to implement. Today is as good a day as any to begin.


Which quotes resonated with you? Have you considered creating a vision board with quotes? Let me know what you think and what steps you might take in the comments.

Be bold, be brave…on second thought just do nothing

Timothy Ferriss What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do from Flickr via Wylio
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Be bold, be brave…on second thought just do nothing

Most of 2014 was filled with a feeling of angst, discomfort, a smidgen of boredom and a whole lot of stagnation. I longed to do something more to be something more but had absolutely no clue how or where to start. I investigated a variety of things, opportunities within my current field, graduate school, never ending youtube “research” on all things natural hair. Nothing would bring relief from the nagging discomfort and the quiet voice whispering ‘You were created for more’.

Should I continue to try and make my way up the corporate ladder? Should I go back to school, full time, could I go back to school full time?

All of these questions flooded me towards the end of last year and it was like I awakened from a sleep deprivation coma that began 5 years prior with birth of our middle daughter. I was in a cyclone of never ending ear infections and sporadically sleeping children.  2014 was the beginning of the long ascent out of babyhood into a world little people with ideas and opinions. I could finally breathe and begin to think clearly. Yet I continued to allow the busyness of life, marriage, kids and work, to rule me.

During my daily routines I might hear the quiet voice in the drone of my never ending conference calls.  Yet and still I would hear and continuously push the whisper ‘You were created for more’ back to a secret corner of my mind. Occasionally if I sat still long enough I would entertain the idea that ‘You can have a greater impact than you think’ to inch up into the realm of possibilities.

Master of Doing Nothing

I had become a master of not sitting still with my thoughts and dreams. If I’m honest, I thought there was no way life can be better than it is right now. And let me say my life by no means sucks, sure there are ups and downs but certainly nothing to be depressed about. I realize now that I was viewing my life with constraints and limitations, fear of the unknown had me in its paws and I didn’t even realize it.  I was content, so I thought, just going through the motions and becoming a martyr in my own life. There was no time to be bold or brave.

2015 change starts with me?

Throughout 2014 I avoided the idea of a life coach but in 2015 something shifted in me and I was open to the idea. When I got an invited to attend a free Teleclass  Best Year Ever…Set and Achieve the Goals You Really Want In the New Year!, hosted by Coach Rita Goodroe I took what seemed like a huge risk at the time,  and I joined the call. She talked about how after a failed relationship she helped herself get over the break up by shaking things up. Rita challenged herself to 35 dates in 35 days.  In that process she was able to take a look at herself and make some adjustments. When she talked about the process it’s like a light bulb went off for me. All of a sudden all of the lip service I’d given many others over the years became nearly deafening as the words rang back to me. “The only person you can change is yourself”.  Rita asked us to think about what we would like for our lives to look like by the end of the year. And the question she asked next rocked me, ‘What would your situation/life look like if you choose to do nothing?’

Yeah, Change Starts with Me!

Boom!  Went the cannon and I was convinced any change, any improvements I’d like to see in my life they start with me. So at the beginning of 2015 I committed to myself to begin the process of self-evaluating, adjusting and changing. While it hasn’t been comfortable and most times it can be downright terrifying, it’s all been worth it. I remind myself that I made a commitment to try and take the risk. I made the decision to be brave and bold and refuse to do nothing.

And Change Starts with You!!

What is one small thing you can do today to begin the process of shaking things up in your life? It doesn’t have to be a full blown strategic plan. It can be something small like simply deciding to attend a free webinar or class. What’s something small you can commit to do today?  Please add your comments below.

Be Bold, be brave, and refuse to do nothing!

Let’s Get Ready to Bloom!

Hi there! I’m am a management consultant by day and  a cheerleader for the underdog. I believe that some of the best lessons are presented throughout our lives through our work, friends and family.  My hope is this site will serve as a catalyst for taking risks and moving out of our comfort zone. To become intentional about blooming inspire of our past and even our present circumstances. Hopefully, you will find the content here  insightful and transparent. And maybe, just maybe, you too, will be inspired to become a Successful Bloom!IMAG1306