Carefully Constructed Lives

It seems like we spend so much time building lives that should be rather than lives that we believe could be. Our hopes and dreams tacked onto walls of what we have to do rather than what we want to do. Things that we have to do will always be around what we want to do will always reside. If you want to do something different, be something different, you will have to make getting to what you want to do something that you HAVE to DO. Here are three things you can do today to make room for what you want to do.

Be Selfish

Find 15 minutes to take a walk or just sit. Turn off the social media, silence your phone and get quiet. Now I know if you have children that can be a challenge. Give them some toys, or God forbid turn on a cartoon. And sneak to the bathroom or closet and just be.


If there is weeping and wailing when you try to make your escape make sure everyone is safe, ignore the chaos and take the time anyway. If kids are too little you might have to wait until they are asleep to get your 15 minutes, but take it anyway.

Breathe Deeply

A doctor told me years ago when I developed Temporomandibular Joint (TMJ) thanks to work related stress I was clenching my teeth and that would result in my jaw locking up and not being able to talk or eat. Not cool! Anyway, he suggested that I do some deep breathing at night and massage the muscles in my jaw. At the time I thought it was the dumbest suggestion ever, but I was desperate so I did it anyway. To my surprise at first I’d try to get through the exercise quickly. He suggested breathing in and out and counting to 10, again thought it was dumb but I tried it. What happen next really surprised me first once I focused on my breathing and releasing the tension in my jaw I got some much needed mental down time. Check out this article to get the skinny on how to take a breather.

What are some things you do to relax and focus on things you want to do? Do you struggle to make time for what  you want to do? What do you think would help free you up? Sound off in the comments.

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